- He will drive anywhere at any time, day or night, if there is something I want.
- He remembers when I mention something I want and goes and gets it for me to surprise me (i.e. the Baskin Robbins ice cream that is currently saving my sanity).
- He runs errands so I don't have to.
- He does the grocery shopping every week and makes stops when we need extra stuff. He also gasses up my car for me.
- He works his ass off to support me and our kids.
- He respects his mom and calls her regularly. He loves her unconditionally, just because she's his mom. I could not ask for a better role model for our kids for the way they should treat their mother!
- If I say "chocolate," I will have Ghiradelli or pretzel M&M's after his next trip to the store.
- He always tells me I look nice, whether I have showered or not, whether I am wearing makeup or not, whether I have gained weight or lost it (yeah, lost it, haha), whether I am dressed up or in my sweats.
- He doesn't make me feel guilty about bringing home our gigantic, neurotic golden retriever and then asking him (without words) to walk him every morning so I don't have to. He just did.
- He cooks because I can't. Without him, we wouldn't eat. Well, not anything edible.
- He takes care of me, the kids, the pets, his mother, his grandmother...always before he takes care of himself. He is the most selfless man I have ever met.
- He doesn't look for recognition, no matter how much he deserves it. He just does things for other people to be nice and never claims the credit. And never even expects or asks for a thank you.
- He understands when I need to break down and cry on his shoulder and when I need to be left alone. And he celebrates with me when I am happy. He has ridden out my mood swings for the last 23 years while staying on an even keel.
- He never fights dirty. Ever.
- He demands that our kids treat me with respect.
- Whatever I want, whatever I need, he is always there for me. He has been there for every childbirth, baby milestone, personal achievement, hospital visit, numerous surgeries, fibromyalgia, and bipolar disorder. And a million other things that we have gone through in 23 years of being married.
- He doesn't ever question that I have two chronic illnesses, even though he can't see the pain I am in. Some guys would run the other way if their wife had ONE chronic illness, but he sticks with me even though I have two.
- He loves my parents like they are his own. And...
- He does not put up with any bullshit from me. He calls me on it when I am not being truthful or the kind of person I should be and that makes me a better me.
I am sure that there are a million things I have left out of this list and I love him for all of those things too that I didn't think up for this list. I reserve the right to add to it later.
For those of you who don't know, we are going through a very tough time in our family right now. I hope that I have been there for him, because I know he is here for me. My parents could not have asked for a better son-in-law or husband for their daughter.
Justin, I just wanted to say thank you for all of the things you do to make my life so wonderful and so easy. I know being married to me is a lot to handle, but you do it with so much ease that you make it seem effortless. You are my best friend, which goes without saying but I'm saying it anyway. I appreciate and respect you. I also love you, but sometimes I wonder if appreciation and respect mean more than love in relationship. Luckily, I don't need to make a choice.